the ‘resume’ vs. the ‘eulogy’

the ‘resume’ vs. the ‘eulogy’

“Make someone feel something and you will never be forgotten.” – Charlotte Eriksson

How successful are you? Have you made a lot of money or influenced many people? If you were to re-write your resume today, what would be on it? If you were to die tomorrow, what would your closest friends and relatives say at your funeral?

‘Eulogy’, what people say and think about you upon your passing is identified as being more important than our ‘resumes’, things we did or accomplished in our lives.

And yet, there is growing pressure day in and day out to bulk up your ‘resume’, be judged on your successes and add to your list of accomplishments. To me, this seems backward. The pressure should be to influence others, to touch their lives and to become a ‘Eulogy Builder’ rather than a ‘Resume Builder’. Have a celebration of life rather than a celebration of success.

“What a poor life I have had if I am only remembered for the amount of money I made.” – Jeffrey Fry

Money and power, they come and go. Like a baton, they are passed from one to the next. Your memory, however, lives on with those who knew you and those who were touched by your work. This to me is the ultimate goal.

 

 

10 books that made my year

10 books that made my year

Reading as a child was a beautiful thing. I would take adventures to other worlds through The Magic Treehouse, nod off with my friend Artemis Fowl  and cozy up before bed with my brothers, listening to the tales of a certain famous wizard who need not be named.

In my university years, reading became more of a chore than an adventure. I read to get readings done, to analyze peer reviewed text and to find sources for term papers. I was reading what I had to, not what I wanted to.

I decided to make 2016 different.

I had found ideas and authors outside of the collegiate reading realm who fascinated me, I found fiction I could enjoy and Non-Fiction I truly wanted to read. It is amazing what can happen when a life finds inspiration and passion and love.

Here is my year in review through the most important books and ideas I have bathed my brain in over the past 12 months.

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a picture is worth 1000 words

a picture is worth 1000 words

There is a beautiful moment, in the wing of many hospitals where people are in palliative care. The moment is one of memory, remorse, joyfulness, love and regret.

This moment occurs when the patient is looking at old photographs with loved ones by their side, reminiscing on beautiful moments past and reminding them of the value and fullness of their life. The photographs meant so much. In some cases a photograph embodied a whole life, a picture represented an entire year, an entire decade or an entire marriage.

The value of old photos played such an important role in many lives. What is the role of the photograph today? Continue reading “a picture is worth 1000 words”

the way of the warrior

the way of the warrior

Bushido – the way of the warrior.

In the film The Last Samurai, there is a scene, more specifically a quote that has stuck with me since first watching this film as a teenager. Teacher and student are in a courtyard surrounded by beautiful cherry blossom trees and filled with the presence of their ancestors past. Teacher says to student:

“The perfect blossom is a rare thing, you could spend your life looking for one and it would not be a wasted life…”

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on daily meditation

on daily meditation

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.

You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.
Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
– Marcus Aurelius

Gym memberships have gone up 50% in the last 15 years. More and more people are realizing the health benefits of physical activity (or gyms are just getting better and better at marketing, probably both).

This number is fantastic, physical activity does so much good for the body and the mind. But to me, one muscle has been lacking exercise. We are quick to renew our gym memberships and exercise on a regular basis, we work out our bodies.

But what about our minds?

How often do you work out your brain? How often do you practice focus, practice mindfulness and exercise your mind in the habit of hard work?

How is it that we as a culture are increasingly advocating the physical upkeep of our bodies but so unaware and incompetent to the mental exercise of our brains? With rises in mental illness, stress and anxiety throughout our society, I can’t help but think there is a correlation here.

“Half an hour’s meditation each day is essential, except when you are busy. Then a full hour is needed.” – Saint Francis de Sales

I only recently began taking the training and exercising of my mind as seriously, if not more seriously, than the training of my body. Daily meditation practice is a journey that has led me to more mindfulness, presence, and quality of thought.

The problem I had, was working it into my daily routine, sticking with it and actually making progress. Progress in mediation is not physical or palpable, and it is so easy to be discouraged. Need more convincing

Today, I have a secret to share with you, one that has helped me to make meditation a part of my daily routine. It has helped me to make sense of meditation and put me on a one way, runaway train to mindfulness town. The secret is…

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readers are leaders

readers are leaders

A book is a dream that you hold in your hand.

–Neil Gaiman

Each of us has a different relationship with reading. For some it conjures a romantic past of cuddling up in your bed listening to mom or dad narrate your favourite story. Others, it is trudging through english class staples like Silas Marner and To Kill a Mockingbird (which are fantastic reads).

One thing I have come to realize more and more is this: readers are leaders.

In high school and university, reading was a chore for me. A necessary evil to get to a desired grade and desired outcome (my degree). I had lost touch with the great stories of my childhood and hadn’t read a book for “fun” in years.

Then, things changed. I read a book and my world opened the door to the thoughts and ideas that had been waiting outside knocking to be let in for so long.

Whenever you read a good book, somewhere in the world a door opens to allow in more light.

–Vera Nazarian

I had found my tribe. Entrepreneurs, philosophers, leaders and poets. Once I found my tribe, groups of people who thought like I did and were experts at what interested me, reading became the way.

Are you stuck in a rut? Have you found your tribe? What are your true interests? For me, the answer to my questions was to read. To open my world to the great ideas and thoughts of those who came before me.

If we encounter a man of rare intellect, we should ask him what books he reads.

–Ralph Waldo Emerson


 

Thanks so much for stopping by, if you are wondering what books got me started on my journey to success and mindfulness I have shared a few of them below.

Meditations – by Marcus Aurelius

Rich Dad, Poor Dad – by Robert T. Kiyosaki

The 4-Hour Workweek – by Tim Ferris

Psycho-Cybernetics – by Maxwell Maltz

Stay Golden.

fight or flight

fight or flight

There is a moment of turmoil between my alligator brain and my conscious brain each and every morning. I feel I am not alone.

The turmoil occurs at the precise moment my alarm clock begins to sound and I am to make the decision on whether to get up immediately, press snooze or spend 20+ secs thinking about how crazy my day is going to be and then press snooze.

I am fascinated by this moment. It is such a primal event, fight or flight in its most basic representation. This morning my dilemma was this:

fight: face the day, get up early and seize the opportunity before me.

or

flight: put off the suffering of vertical life and retire further into my warm, safe bed.

I think the application of this principal is huge. If I cannot control the simple decision to wake up early and have a more productive day, over sleeping in, how can I trust myself to make difficult decisions when more than sleep and sunken eyes are at stake.

Think about this the next time your alarm goes off, own your morning routine and become the master of your daily decisions. 

When given the choice, will you fight or flight?